Personal Update: Of Beginnings, Endings, and Intermissions

A photo grid of nine images from Instagram. Includes a pregnancy announcement, two selfies, three vacation photos, two landscapes, and a photo of a Book Riot monthly box.

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Happy (belated) New Year! It’s a good time for change, I’ve heard. But 2018 in the Dreamer household got off to a bit of a rocky start. My husband had the flu, though thankfully I managed to avoid it. We’ve gotten less than happy news about our oldest dog; her health is declining, which we knew but weren’t really accepting. She’s 14 now, and starting to show it. She’s slowly losing the use of her hind legs, her eyesight is diminishing, and she’s having heart problems. We’re doing what we can to keep her happy and comfy, and she still seems in good spirits and still gets the occasional bout of the zoomies.

My father-in-law is not doing well, either. We’re not entirely sure what exactly is wrong, but basically the approach seems to be the same: try to keep him as comfortable as possible until we can’t anymore.

We had a scare with the pregnancy as well; I had some complications but we quickly ruled out miscarriage or any injury to the baby. Everything looks fine but I’m just supposed to take things (relatively) easy and monitor my condition for changes. So far, so good … things have only gotten better, and I’m nearing the end of Month 3. It’s hard to believe how quickly it’s going by, but I get the idea that feeling is going to be pretty much permanent from now on.

So … ultimately, things have been a bit stressful since the holidays. I made the difficult decision to take the Spring semester off from graduate school, though I’ll be returning to my studies as soon as possible, which in all likelihood won’t be until August. (They don’t tend to offer many online options in the summer). And while it does seem like all bad news, things really aren’t all bad. I’ve started seeing a new therapist (10/10, highly recommend) who, after just a handful of sessions, has already helped me make some great strides in my stress and anxiety management. It also means that Tuesday Reviews Day will be returning, so look for new reviews content starting January 30!

Anyway, thanks for putting up with my inconsistencies and my ramblings. I hope you’ll be back for TRD, and let me know in the comments what you’ve been reading!

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Personal Update: The Most Wonderful Time of the Year

So the radio silence since August 29 was not planned, but a lot has happened!

I’ve completed my Fall semester at last. If you haven’t read back, I took Literary Theory and African-American Literature. Both of my professors were great, and I’m glad I enrolled in those courses. I’ve gotten grades back, and I got another 4.0 this term!!!! I’m so stoked. I really was aiming to get a 4.0 for the whole program, but my complete inability to read my Film professor really boned me on that goal. Oh well. Next semester begins on January 18, when I’ll be taking American Literature in Perspective and Theories of Teaching Writing. I’m not as excited about that semester as I was about this one, but I’ve had one of the professors before and got on really well with him, so that’s a plus. And I’ve already had a breakthrough in my plans for my thesis, so I’m really excited about that. (I’m also pretty thrilled about the month-long break from classes; let’s be honest.)

In other very happy news, my husband and I found out that I’m finally pregnant!! We’re expecting our first child in July of 2018, which is actually really great timing. I’ll be out of class for summer and have about a month before Fall 2018 classes begin, which will (hopefully) be my final term. I’ll be down to one course and my thesis, provided I can take both of those simultaneously (I’m not sure yet about my uni’s restrictions on that).

I also started seeing a new therapist, who has recommended me to remain cautiously optimistic about school post-baby. I’m worried it’ll be too much, but she agrees with my husband that it may actually be easier to finish on schedule, while the baby is small and mostly stationary, ha. We have a huge amount of family locally, and they’re over the moon, so thankfully we’re in a really good place with regards to childcare. I’m not going to become a mommy blogger or devote my IG account to the little bun, though; I know too well the distinct pain of infertility, and while I will certainly be posting about our addition and possibly sharing photos, I’m committing myself to not overdoing it because I remember how hard that was. I remember having to unfollow/hide people on Insta or Facebook, not because I wasn’t happy for them, but because I couldn’t stomach the depression, the jealousy, and the anger. Why her? Why not me? And I’m not going to do that to others who feel that pain and suffer alone. On that note, if you want to speak with me privately about this issue, feel free to comment and we can exchange info.

Moving along … I have not been doing much reading on my break. The holidays are always pretty hectic for me and mine, and this year is the first year that my husband and I will be hosting his family’s Christmas dinner. I’m excited about it, but it means we’re doing a lot of cleaning and recipe trial runs and getting packages wrapped earlier than usual which … still isn’t all that early, to be honest. I did start reading The Clockwork Dynasty thanks to some excellent reviews, and I’m already in love with it. Reviews posts might start back up again, but with all the changes in store for 2018, I’m not sure yet what the regularity will be. Just bear with me, please! I’d love for you all to stick around through the new year and navigate new frontiers with me.

What have you all been up to? Read any good books lately? Drop ’em in the comments!

Aside

Ch-ch-ch-changes

I really would like to get into a more permanent rhythm, and posting reviews every week just ends up getting out of hand, especially once I start classes back in the fall. (Just a few weeks to go now; yikes!!)

In that spirit, Tuesday Reviews Day will be every other week, while I try that on for size and see how it works. There won’t be a review post tomorrow, but I already have one scheduled for next Tuesday, and I think y’all are going to love it.

Also next Tuesday is my first-ever surgery; it’s minor and none of the doctors seem worried, but I’m a professional worrywart and I am doing my thing! So if you can spare a few kind thoughts or prayers or whatever you’re into, please send some my way next Tuesday; I could really use ’em! Love y’all.

Only Up From Here

So. Let’s state the obvious and get that out of the way — it’s been over a month now since my last post. I need to get better about posting, I know, and I have a host of excuses but none of them are really good enough. So, sorry! But moving on. Things are gonna change, I can feel it. (Points if you caught that reference.)

I’ve got some things in the works I can’t wait to share with you guys. The Breaking Bad post is coming along nicely even though I know it’s going to be several months behind for people who watched the show live. Even for people who didn’t, myself included. I’d have liked to get that done awhile back, but life happens and regret changes nothing.

More exciting news: I managed to get into an all-day writing workshop led by the amazing Mary Robinette Kowal, which will be held on June 21. I’m so stoked about this and I can’t wait to share all the details. All of them. Right now, I’m not sure when I’ll have a post ready for that, but you can be sure there will be one.

Plus, more book reviews are in the works! Right now I’m reading Sharp Teeth by Toby Barlow and The Butterfly’s Daughter by Mary Alice Monroe. Both are fantastic books so far, though I will say Sharp Teeth is a bit slower read for me as it’s written entirely in poetry. I picked it up because the subject seemed interesting—plus it came highly recommended from friends—but I think I really just wanted to expand my reading horizons. I’ve built a pretty comfortable little box for myself as far as my reading choices. There’s a lot of Victorian Steampunk and post-apocalypse dystopias in the box, a few Southern lit works but certainly not any poetry. But I’ve got to say, I’m not at all disappointed by Sharp Teeth. Remember the book The Outsiders by S.E. Hinton? If you’re nodding your head thinking “oh my God, what a great book,” you should probably pick up Sharp Teeth. I’ve found it very reminiscent of The Outsiders. I came across The Butterfly’s Daughter in a local authors section at the gift shop in Charleston’s South Carolina Aquarium. I bought it for a few reasons: a) Local author b) Female author c) Primarily female characters d) POC female main. It already passes the Bechdel test with flying colors and I’m not even halfway through it yet.

As far as our personal lives, not much is changing. We’ve got plans in the works to get our house fixed up and on the market by the end of the fall, so there’s that. The husband’s garden is doing pretty great this year, too; observe:

Food!

Food!

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More food!

More food!

Of course, he took both of these back around the end of May, so everything is considerably larger by now. Some of the corn—which is already taller than me now—got damaged in a rough storm we had earlier this week, so that’s disappointing. But if everything we have left produces, we’ll still have more than we can eat. We’ve talked about getting a little stall at the local farmers’ market, but we’ll probably end up donating a lot of the excess.

Overall, things are really looking up, finally. I’m feeling back to myself and I’m even going back to the gym. Of course, I still have a ways to go, but it doesn’t seem so daunting anymore. Looking forward to what’s to come!